I have been blogging for a little over two years now. In that time, i have "befriended" some wonderful people an come across some really nasty ones. I have read all sorts of blogs and been particulalry drwan to blogs where there are feuds, be it family or friends going on. Opinionated as I am, i have been attacked on blog, because someone misinterpreted what i said, or simply because they disliked who they thought i was.

I remember some friends coming to my rescue and even people who wwerent on my friends' list dissecting everything I had said to try and show the moron that she was misguided and barking up the wrong tree.

Why do we blog? for some it's to vent. They vent their anger at the world, their lives, their families their jobs. For other's it's to boast and for most(like myself) it's largely to moan and get an insight into how other people live. I hate it though when reality seems to cross over to cyberspace. When one has an ongoing feud with their family, if they are your friend, or atleast your cyberfriend you tesnd to stand by them and sympathise with what they have to say because it is all you know. If their family wades into it though it is something totally different.

I have always thought that family stuff should be left in the family. Yes we can vent our frustrations here but if your friends or people you know in reality come here to attack you what can you do? Sometimes I think it might be best if we all just blogged about our fatantastic or non-existent sex lives. Wouldnt that be wonderful?! Of course sometimes I wonder what people in my real life would say about the things I write about them. I would like to think that what i blog about I could tell them stright to their faces, sometimes within running distance i think.

We can never know who is right or wrong when there is some kind of feud going on in blogland. I remember a few weeks ago, there was a group of people hell-bent on criticizing and pulling steph's blog apart. They just came across as sorry people who were jealous. It's because the attacks became personal and i think that is really the root of all feuds. You can disagree with someone on a particular issue but as soon as it becomes personal, as in you diagnose them as being mentally unstable or dillusional then you have lost all credibility.

As far as I know at the moment, i am not feuding with anyone. I have no interst in that and even within my family, my sister hates me but i would never go as far as airing her dirty laundry here on blog. I might air my own in relation to my problems with her but to go out on a full attack? never.

So to menopausal mama's family: we dont know what the heck she is done to you or what you have done to her. It has been stresseful for all of us here reading the "she said-she said" issues here. Sometimes, one has to be wise enough to walk off cyberspace and deal with reality. Blogging for most of us is about a form of escapism and injecting an ugly dose of reality into our cyberworld really leaves a bitter taste.

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