I hadn't been geraed up for a night out for a long time until last friday. Usually, when a bunch of us girls go out, we meet at a centarl point in the west end and then we try to decide on where to go and it's usually just for a meal and drinks these days. we are definitely getting too old for the dance floors and all the bars.

For some reason though, this friday Soph and In were geared up for fun. We had had to cancel the previous friday after the (almost) bombing of Tiger Tiger bar because were were metting near there, but there were no such problems last friday. I had texted her to let her know i was going to wear my little black number and happily she had also decided that she wanted to dress up. She said she had a new sexy top she wanted to wear and the girl has beautiful full boobs. Not that I look do you get me?. Incredibly, when my flatmate first met her, in a rather sexy top with an abundant cleavage, he said "nice top!". But then i guess you would if you sort of batted for the other side. She giggled after and said any other man would not have commented on the top. they would have said how great she looked instead. I tend to agree with that.

Anyway, I shaved bits that needed shaving and trimmed what needed to be trimmed that morning and went to work, whilst mentally worrying about whether the dress would fit. I have gained just over half a stones since christmas, the good this to come out/spill out is my boobs, the bad is my fuller hips and bum....bad to me anyway, although some geezers would strongly disgaree

I dashed home, chatted for a bit with the landlord who can go on and on and on and eventually i was able to sneak away for a shower. I tried the dress on and whoopee, it fitted rather snugly. I though my bum was hitching it up just a tad. It is a short dress but still...

I decided to go knickerless and i got a buzz from knowing that, unless i flashed someone, they wouldnt have a clue. Then i put on the war-paint. I had promised the landlord I would come out and twirl in front of him so he could give me his opinion on how I looked. He was delighted. He was like a little boy really but he thought i looked absolutely stunning. He would, he is 78yrs(but looks 10yrs younger)! anyway, that boosted my confidence and I stepped out to be greeted with appreciative glances and whistling. It was slightly windy and i felt my dress sway a little bit but i figured, whoever saw anything would be a lucky sod:P.

We tried a Korean restaurant where they grill everything in front of you and you keep picking stuff off the grill and eating it. I had to give up on the chop sticks and ask for a knife and fork. I think Soph would have choked on her duck had a told her i was completely without knickers, never mind R who is japanese and a bit on the straight and narrow

We had to suppliment all those meats and veggies with rice because the portions were rather small. The rice made us full, and our wine price was knocked off because the one we wanted wasn't available and it wasn't cheap i can tell you, so we paid the same price as the house wine. After that sumptious meal, 'R' wanted to go home(to cook for her husband can you believe it?!) and she felt sef-conscious because she wasnt dressed up. we told her she had nothing to worry about because she was married already, we were trying to ensnare potential husbands.

In the end Soph and I went to soho for a nightcap. We actually stuffed ourselves with the most delicious home-made tiramisu first and had more wine. The very very camp manager/waiter was flirting with me and kept touching me which was really hilarious. I had been rude to him on the pavenment outside while we were looking for a bar thinking he was a weirdo(which he was) but as soon as we entered the establishment, my friend said "that guy is the waiter". I couldn't believe it.

I flirted with a couple of other guys and flashed a little bit on the tube home while pretending to read a discarded newspaper. I heard the guy sitting across from me gasp. I'd like to think I gave him a little jolt. However, i wasn't trashed, just 3 glasses and i slept happily and got to work late the following day.

In total, a wonderful night out. Must repeat it soon

Last friday, my friend/client's husband switched on the telly and on the news was the story about the 3year old girl who was kidnapped in Nigeria.

Her husband commented on how awful it was that a child had been abducted and I murmured my agreement. She then asked where this had taken place. Her husband told her it was in Niegria.First she asked if the parents were British to which her husband replied yes. She then asked if the parents was black or white. I couldn't understand what that had to do with anything but i told her the father was white the monther African(or black) and so the child was mixed.She had asked if the child was balck or white as well.

As soon as she heard that the mother was black and Nigerian, she said " I wouldn't be surpirsed if she had something to do with the kidnapping!" I think i was more shocked than angry by her statement. Her husband seemed a little shocked. I tried to explain to her that in that region of Nigeria people are kidnapped all the time and it's because of the oil. If you go to work on an oil plant there, you run the risk of being kidnapped. Yes, the money is good but so are the risks. A bit really like doing some lucrative contract in Iraq whwre you might lose your life or possibly make lots of money.

I was disappointed though. She has said things in the past that made me feel she has got some racial tendencies and i always set her straight as to how I feel, but to say a mother was invloved in her own child's kidnapping because she is Nigerian to me was the lowest of the low.

I just don't know why people can't looke beyond colour and where people come from and just be human. I did not pursue the matter further because it might have caused more problems and this is someone who is seeing a psychologist at the moment and leaning heavily on me emotionally after her sessionns or before.

However, her emotional vulnerability and fragility does not excuse the fact that she's a bit flawed. I haven't seen her since but i still feel a little shocked by her little outburst.

I guess that's life though, those people who go to lenghts to stress who they are not(homophobic, racists, ageists, whatever) actaul reveal their true selves in random situation. I am trying not to judge her, that is who she is and that's ok, but i am still a little disappointed. I thought she was better than that. I shall endevour not to hold it againt her, after all i do have issues with those 411 scammers. and the scam aopparebntly comes from ....Nigeria