I met an acquaintance for a drink yesterday. we had a nice chat. well he was talking rubbish but so was I at times. he wanted to bar hop. i didn't considering he was 1hr late and my hayfever is driving me nuts. never had it before, i do need to see my GP pronto.

We left the pub, he said we were going to some centre where students who do my course hang out. It turned out to be his little flat. I told him i would stay for 30mins since it was late and i really didnt wanna stay out too late.he offered me a drink. coke with vodka. i declined the vodka but took the coke. Thankfully it was sealed because at that point I was beginning to feel a little apprehensive and uncomfortable. my short demin skirt, coupled with a t-shirt with "pyschobitch" written across it didn't do me any favours. clearly he was getting excited but not in the right manner.

It seems he had it in his head that since we have corresponded so freely, it meant i was gonna jump into bed with him. i think he's been in those situations before. He then demanded a kiss from me. i said no. He smiled. it looked devillish. he locked the door, pocketed the keys and said I wasn't gonna leave. The bastard was serious. He demanded that i show him my butt! I couldnt believe it. I said NO! emphatically. He started to label me a prude and called me all sort of other names. He thought i was playing a game and my being a little scared, particularly when he put his hand near the zip on his jeans made me jump out of my chair. I was pretty sure he was gonna whip out his penis. It was indeed what he intended to do. christ almighty what to do??! I was thinking like crazy, i couldnt get out, he could rape me or kill me or both.

I had to gather my wits and be smart. So i told him if he didnt open the door I would jump out the window. the fucker dared me to do it. He couldnt believe it when i ripped the drapes open and looked out. he believed I would jump. perhaps i would've. He apologised and said he just wanted to see how far he could push me. as far as i was concerned he'd pushed far enough. i was petrified but i wasn't going to give him the satisfaction of seeing that and using it against me. Then he said something about wanting me to be in his film. Clearly he thought I was born yesterday. he rang up his friend, whom he wanted me to meet, whom ive met incidentally at my flat when my previous roommate had brought him over. I told him i had a headache and stood by the door. he put the keys on the table and said i should take them and open the door. Fucking hell! I didnt budge and told him I wanted to go and that's it. By now it had been more than 45mins, I was getting angrier by the minute and my headcahe was getting worse.

So he gave me three options:1) stay the night coz he'd been waiting a long time to have me and he couldnt help himself!

2) kiss him
3) if i left he was leaving with me,i could ring up my boyfriend and let him talk to him.

The options did not appeal to me and i was just getting angrier. He then sort of gave up and said I was stubborn and really difficult. He didnt know that about me. Was i afraid of my boyfriend etc. At that point i was beyond reasoning with him, I almost called 999 and told him i would do it. Eventually he put the key on the door and said i could unlock it. i did, but then he needed to open the main door downstairs. He had to come with me. The friend rang him, asked if i wanted to mee(via this moron). I said no, he made apologies said i had a headache etc. Said he knew i would never go back to his flat, insisted on walking me down to the bus stop by grabbing my neck and pulling me back when i was walking fast. My neck hurts even now.

Eventually at thwe bus stop, he was apologetic and said he had been tryin to see if I really meant no. IF i didnt kick that cocksucker in the nuts then, I never will! I told him ive been consistent since we met, why would i say no and mean yes. I had been terrified and he thought it was a joke. his answer: because lots of girls say no when they mean yes.what a psycho!

I thought we left the stone/dark ages behind a long time ago. clearly some blokes are still stuck in a time warp Im glad as terified as I was, I was able to stay calm and eventually get myself out. It could have been worse. im stupid sometimes but i still have half a brain left

lesson:next time, walk away from the pub and go home. better still do not agree to have drinks with guys who cant accept being just friends. I have two other friends who sort of pounce on me when i visit them on occasion. i do not enocurage them they know i dont want to start a sexual relationship with them but i wonder if there is something abut me that says "take a chance". It really pisses me off!

No! means NO! END OF